As I begin to position myself as an information source, an expert of sorts, on pregnancy, birth, and parenting, I’ve had to spend time thinking about what type of information I want to relay. Through Papoose’s website, Facebook page, and in-store customer interactions, I’ll be sharing news and information that may be of interest to new and expectant parents, because I believe that informed parents are better parents. It’s important now, in the early stages, to decide what messages I want to send and to what degree I want to inject my own opinions.
As a certified lactation counselor, there are clear guidelines: use peer-reviewed, published studies, not anecdotal evidence; understand that the mother-baby relationship comes first; respect and support the mother’s goals for breastfeeding regardless of how they may or may not align with my own; never judge. These guidelines are equally fitting outside of my lactation practice. I need to stay true to Papoose’s mission, to support new and expectant families through the full circle of maternity and parenting in a way that encourages the natural process, informed decision making, and informed purchasing, but I also need to be aware that there are many acceptable ways to parent that differ from mine; I don’t want to alienate prospective customers or friends just because they chose an epidural or weaned at 6 months, for example. There’s a fine line there, because I don’t want to ignore my principles, from which stems Papoose’s goal of encouraging the natural process, but I don’t want to invalidate others. And I also need to remember that my beliefs are not yet mainstream in our country.
Case in point: childbirth. Continue reading
We’ve already used up two days of March and I still can’t believe it. I know I say it all the time…but where did the time go? I’m always amazed at how short February is, the last full month of winter and now spring is just around the corner.
We had (what I’m assuming to be) one last snow Saturday night. It was a great surprise to wake up Sunday morning to a winter white dusting. We have a window at the head of our bed instead of a headboard, so I can curl around and peak out the curtain at sunshine, rain, or snow without having to touch toes to the floor. Sunday is one of the two mornings that I get to sleep in, but when I woke up at 8:50 and saw the snow, I let Chris come back to bed (he’d been up for over an hour on toddler duty) and took Nora out to build her first snowman.
I love Nantucket, but I’m sad about the winters here. We’re about 10 degrees warmer than the mainland, and I watched Facebook jealously this winter as my friends posted pictures of snow piled up to their knees in New York and Iowa. Even my mom and family in north Texas got more snow and ice this year than we did in Nantucket! And whenever we would get any tiny amount, it quickly melted away. So when I saw the magical snow “storm” Sunday morning, I knew I needed to get Nora out before it was gone. (As you can see it was already going quickly.) Continue reading
One of the arguments against stay-at-home parenting that I hear is what a career killer it is to be out of the workforce for a number of years. Sometimes, it’s said that the impact of SAH parenting is worse for men because it’s unexpected for them to do so, other times it’s said to be worse for women because our lifetime earning potential is already so much less than men. Either way, it’s the most common reason I’ve heard for why I’m not helping myself (or my family) by staying at home with Nora.
Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about that, because I feel like I’ve developed so many new job skills since I quit my job…more than I would have developed if I had stayed on track. And I’m not just talking about time-management and planning and other soft-skills mom’s claim (although I’m working on those too!). In the last few months I have taught myself HTML and CSS. Sure, I wasn’t starting from scratch — I knew just enough to build fancy Facebook pages for my employers and a few friends — but I couldn’t have coded a whole website from nothing. I also couldn’t have edited together a reasonably good video, but now I’ve done that, too:
Of course, both of these things are related to Papoose, which would maybe technically mean I’m not going to be a SAH parent anymore Continue reading
In case you missed the link in my last post, I want to introduce to you my new website for Papoose, www.papoosenantucket.com.
I am really excited about this site, not only because it’s an important step towards getting the funding necessary to get Papoose off the ground, but also because I built (coded!) the site myself. Continue reading